In sickness and health...

There's a reason wedding vows say "in SICKNESS and health." When u r feverish, whiny, irritable, looking for attention at the same time wanting to be left alone... if someone can love and care for u in those times, then rest assured he/she will be with u for the rest of your life....

and if u already have someone like that then my friend that's the best gift life has given u, cherish it forever....

To tell u the truth there's nothing so damn yucky then being alone n sick at the same time...how much one longs for the tender loving care that only someone who truly loves you can give...so my friends if you cannot be there in flesh for a sick friend, do not underestimate the strength that kind words can give to your dear ones in fighting their sickness.

Black and White in a Grey World

Oflate, i've come across so many situations where i've been unable to tell right from wrong. Sometimes the circumstances and their interpretation make all the difference.

Right and wrong seemed so clear to me when i was young and idealistic. Idealistic, i still am, but as i grew up, i realized that life isn't so simple. Experiences have taught me that there are two sides to every story, and I find this huge middle ground which just cannot just be categorized as 'right' or 'wrong'. I've outgrown the naive 'Black and White' world view, and learned to see things as a shade of grey...

But are we as a society mature enough to accept this fact...are we not too judgemental in our opinions and too harsh on the people who land up in such situations. Isn't it too simplistic for us to commit to black and white, yes and no, wrong and right?

Or maybe what we perceive as a grey area is actually right and wrong interwoven with such complexity that it is impossible for people like me (confused lot) to discern between them. Time and again i grapple with this dilemma and all i can do is to pray to God to give me wisdom to be able to see right from the wrong in the so-called "grey areas" of morality.

"Perfectionism is like a double-edged sword,it cuts both ways"

After weeks of feelings the symptoms of a burnout...i've finally realized the root cause of all my problems...and it is the fact that 'I'm a PERFECTIONIST'.

I used to believe that my determination to be perfect will win success, acceptance, love and fulfillment. But now i know that even when perfectionists do achieve, they do not realize that they've neglected themselves and all their loved ones in an insane drive to be 'PERFECT' and thus deprived themselves of the very love and acceptance they want so badly to gain...they lose their peace of mind, enjoyment of life and greatly increase the level of stress they feel on a daily basis.

Now that i know my problem..i've a BIGGER problem at hand...how do i start the process of shedding this burden of perfectionism...it seems like a constant duel with oneself...a perfect 'No Win' situation...

HELP!!!!

Thoughts amidst a bout of loneliness....

Came across these lines today...

***
A doubting mind
Is forced to live
In the prison of loneliness.
***

This set me thinking...could this be the reason for me feeling lonely time n again...

It's a fact that i don't trust people easily...but how can one who has been betrayed again n again go ahead and trust people blindly...

And then i think that i will not be alone forever...there will be time for love again...God enters the darkest rooms...

Beneath my smiles, laughter and cheers, there is a person inside that fears
Of being lonely and not having anybody

...i guess its one of those days again...

Are feelings for real...

how often have we seen our relationships becoming distant b'coz of physical distance. I often wonder if our feelings are hostage to our physical being...is physical proximity essential to sustain any relationship?

sometimes we feel so close to people that we no longer need speech to communicate...a look is enough to convey our thoughts and emotions and then when the same person moves to a different city and is away from us we are at a loss for words and no longer know what to say, a kind of awkwardness sets in...and with time the feelings die a natural death...


is everything transient...can we ever hold on to our emotions and capture them for a lifetime...or is it prudent to just bask in the sunshine of love till it lasts...


...i'm still looking for an answer to this question...maybe i think too much...

Is it true....

that most men cannot handle 'intelligent, independent, successful' women...my male friends tell me that's the case...why...oh... why,why,why!!!

why r men so intimidated by their women colleagues....why is it so difficult to accept the fact that women can also be career oriented and do as good or maybe better then most of the others...why is being ambitious and assertive a vice for a lady but a virtue for a man???

why r men so wary of women with intellect when it comes to relationships...why is the feeling of being in control so important to men...

why...oh... why,why,why!!!